It is a truth universally acknowledged that starting arelationship is easier than keeping one. That's not to imply thatstarting is easy; it's not. But the skills required for each stageare so different, one would think they aren't related at all. Thisis why so many people start over so many times.

Starting only requires maintaining a pretense, for lack of abetter word. You're showing the best version of yourself. Keeping,on the other hand, requires a great deal more. You can't fake itanymore. You've got to be you and let the chips fall where theymay.

If you've been in a relationship longer than 12 months, you'velikely had the “you've changed” conversation. You know:

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